For Every Action…

Anger group

For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction…..Newton’s third law of motion.

 This simple statement should be something we consider whenever we feel our tempers rising.

When we raise our voice in anger at someone the reaction we get back from the object of our temper may not seem equal at that moment but the long lasting effects will equal it in the end.

Before you raise your voice in anger at anyone close to you need to consider what the reaction of that person will be, and what the long term affects could be on that relationship. Is this anger you feel worth directing at the person who has walked into the line of fire, is it worth the harsh words you are about to spew forth, or would a break be in order to think, step back and evaluate the situation and the degree of your response.

Many times things, not persons, are the object of our anger, however even then we need to consider how our anger and our expression of that anger will affect those around us. We need to always remember that whether directed at someone or an object your angry outburst can set the tone for how people respond to you then and in the future.  For parents I feel we need to remember our anger whether directed at our children or not is an example to our children.  Should your children see you argue with each other, of course, as long as that argument is constructive, productive and without violent angry outbursts.  Watching parents work through a discussion without violent words and angry statements can also an example to our children.

Yes, there are times when a situation requires a firm voice and stern language, but I believe those times are few and far between.  There are also times when our anger gets the upper hand, we are only human after all, but again it is so important to remember that what we say will have an effect on those around you, family, friends and strangers alike.

For me, I am going to work on thinking before I react, removing myself from any situation that is causing my temper to rise, taking a break from things that are not working as they should (i.e.: computers, smart phones, tablets, etc) and find some coping mechanisms to help me refrain from words or actions that can have long lasting effects on those around me.  I, and only I, am responsible for my actions and reactions to things around me.

Finally, a disclaimer… the views expressed here are mine, and not directed at any one person, it is just my thoughts and opinions on the subject of anger.

 And “dont sin by letting anger control you.” Dont let the sun go down while you are still angry, for anger gives a foothold to the devil. Dont use foul or abusive language. Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them. (Ephesians 4:26, 27, 29 NLT)

 Have an anger free day…

Paula

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Technology…love it, hate it.

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Technology.love it, hate it.

Technology….it’s a love hate relationship.

 You love it because it keeps you in touch with people, you love it because you can check your social networks on the go, and you love it because there is almost always something to do.

 You hate it because it sucks up so much of your time, because you are too easily reachable, and because it seems to be everywhere and there is no escape.

 I remember when I was a kid, yes that was a long time ago, we had a phone on the kitchen wall with an attached headset, you could only go as far as the cord would stretch.  Your only connection to your friends was that phone.  That was how you communicated with the outside world.  And if you had a large family, most of them girls, getting your turn on that precious phone was almost impossible and definitely the cause of a few arguments.  However, the best conversations happened in person, where you just sat and talked while actually looking at each other. Eye to eye contact …it seems to be a thing of the past.

 Have you ever been out in social setting and looked around?  Chances are all you will see are people on cell phones, checking emails, playing games, texting.  That sort of takes care of the social aspect of the setting doesn’t it?

 Now I am not totally knocking technology, it has its place and certainly has conveniences.

 We have come a long way.  It is good to have all the technology available to us.  But I think we are missing out on a very important aspect of life and that is true human interaction.

We are so connected to our iPhones, smart phones, iPads, iPods, tablets and computers that we are missing out on what is going on around us.

 I have nothing against technology; I personally love it and use it regularly.  I mean, without technology I wouldn’t be able to blog, play Candy Crush, update my status on Facebook and oh so many more things.  I couldn’t spend time on Skype watching my grandson or chatting with family far away.   I couldn’t use the Find My Friends app to see where my friends are (a bit like stalking don’t you think?).  I would really be bored while waiting on the doctor, car repairs, airline flights, etc… nothing beats boredom like portable technology.

  All that being said, one of my goals for 2014 is to put down the technology when in public and to see what is going on around me, to interact with the people in my life on a more personal level.  Will I give up my technology?  NO WAY, but I will learn to use it wisely and less in social settings.  I will not be so connected to technology that I miss out on life and the world around me.

Paula

I know why I am blogging. (I think)

Why am I blogging?

In my first blog I stated I really did not know exactly why I decided to start a blog but was going to go ahead anyway.

So recently I asked myself the question again.  I wanted to come up with an answer because I wanted to see if I had finally figured it out, and also to have an answer should I ever be asked why I decided to start a blog.

I am blogging because I think I have something to say.  I am blogging because I actually have opinions on subjects.  I have ideas, and what I think are creative solutions to everyday issues.  I am blogging because I can express my opinions better in writing then I can verbally.  I think my opinions matter, and I think how I feel about something is somehow validated if I can put into words.  I am blogging because I can express how I feel without being overly corrected or criticized (at least not verbally, written comments are always welcome).

I say all that to clarify that my blogs are exactly that, my feelings, my thoughts and my opinions on various subjects.  I don’t expect everyone to agree with me.  I do not expect to change or influence people to make great changes in their lives because of something I write.  I just hope that something I write encourages others to be brave enough to share their thoughts, opinions and feelings.  I hope that people will feel free to comment on my blogs, expressing their thoughts and opinions knowing they will not be criticized or judged (at least not by me).

So all that being said, I hope you look forward to the many crazy, serious, and random subject blogs that will be coming in the future.

Have a blessed day.

Paula

One word for 2014

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One word for 2014

I recently read a couple blogs that encouraged me to select one word for myself for 2014.   (IKHadinger.com and themomsquad.blogspot.com)

That is not as easy as it may sound.  I thought of a number of words like forward, family, adventure, simplify, and learn, but the one I settled on was growth.  Growth encompasses all of those things and so much more.  I want to grow in 2014.  I want to grow spiritually, mentally and in physical health.  I want to grow in my relationship with my husband, my family and my friends.

Growth implies forward movement, and that’s what I want to be doing in 2014, moving forward. Learning from the past but not dwelling there.  I want to take on new adventures and new challenges.

What will be your word for 2014?  What word encompasses your goals, desires, hopes and dreams for this coming year?

Check out the two blogs I referenced above and then chose your word.  I would love to hear what your choice is and why.

Have a blessed day

Paula

Jer. 29:11

Life is a puzzle.

Life is a puzzle.

Life is a puzzle, pieces of different shapes and sizes that all fit together to create a completed picture of your life.  Our puzzles are never truly completed; they just continue to take shaped in bits and pieces as we make this journey called life.

Have you ever looked back on your life and saw how all the pieces are finally fitting together to make some sense.  The things that happened, the good, the bad and those that did not seem to make sense now are forming another part of the puzzle that is your life.

I have often wondered why things happen, why people come in and out of my life, why certain opportunities come my way and why others don’t.  And yet if I just wait and give it time it all makes sense eventually.  It’s like a lesson on patience, learning to listen and wait, trusting that “All things work together for good”.

I find it is important to look at the completed parts of the puzzle and thank God for the experiences there that have brought me to where I am now.  Equally important is looking at those pieces still spread out on the table not as a mess of mismatched pieces but as adventures yet to be lived, pieces yet to be added to my puzzle.

I hope each of you who read this can begin to look at your life not as a mess spread out on a table with no rhyme or reason, but as the beginning of a beautiful finished work of art.

Have a blessed day.

Paula

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2014…A New Year….A New Adventure

Blogging…how difficult can it be?  What exactly is blogging?  What can be gained by creating and maintaining a blog?  All very good questions, none of which I have a real answer for.  But I am not going to let that stop me.

For starters I decided to look up Blogging in the dictionary app I have on my Ipad.  It defines blogging as: “A Web site containing the writer’s or group of writer’s own experiences, observations, opinions, etc..and often having images and links to other Web sites.”

While I find it difficult to think that anyone would be interested in MY experiences, observations or opinions, that will not stop me from blogging.  It’s my blog and even if I am the only one who ever reads it, I am proceeding with this new adventure.  However,I would love people to read it and respond to it, but if no one ever does, that’s okay too.

I can promise that there will be spelling errors, grammatical errors, venting, random thoughts, irregular postings, and general craziness.

So all that being said, if you want to follow the adventures of Paula, please feel free to follow my blog.  If you have a blog, let me know so I can follow yours.

Have an amazingly wonderful day!

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