For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction…..Newton’s third law of motion.
This simple statement should be something we consider whenever we feel our tempers rising.
When we raise our voice in anger at someone the reaction we get back from the object of our temper may not seem equal at that moment but the long lasting effects will equal it in the end.
Before you raise your voice in anger at anyone close to you need to consider what the reaction of that person will be, and what the long term affects could be on that relationship. Is this anger you feel worth directing at the person who has walked into the line of fire, is it worth the harsh words you are about to spew forth, or would a break be in order to think, step back and evaluate the situation and the degree of your response.
Many times things, not persons, are the object of our anger, however even then we need to consider how our anger and our expression of that anger will affect those around us. We need to always remember that whether directed at someone or an object your angry outburst can set the tone for how people respond to you then and in the future. For parents I feel we need to remember our anger whether directed at our children or not is an example to our children. Should your children see you argue with each other, of course, as long as that argument is constructive, productive and without violent angry outbursts. Watching parents work through a discussion without violent words and angry statements can also an example to our children.
Yes, there are times when a situation requires a firm voice and stern language, but I believe those times are few and far between. There are also times when our anger gets the upper hand, we are only human after all, but again it is so important to remember that what we say will have an effect on those around you, family, friends and strangers alike.
For me, I am going to work on thinking before I react, removing myself from any situation that is causing my temper to rise, taking a break from things that are not working as they should (i.e.: computers, smart phones, tablets, etc) and find some coping mechanisms to help me refrain from words or actions that can have long lasting effects on those around me. I, and only I, am responsible for my actions and reactions to things around me.
Finally, a disclaimer… the views expressed here are mine, and not directed at any one person, it is just my thoughts and opinions on the subject of anger.
And “don’t sin by letting anger control you.” Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry, for anger gives a foothold to the devil. Don’t use foul or abusive language. Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them. (Ephesians 4:26, 27, 29 NLT)
Have an anger free day…